My wife is African and French and I am African - American/French-Spanish/Native American Descent. My wife and I are best friends and are common in a lot of ways. We have noticed throughout our life that not only have we experienced discrimmination from people who are outside the African American Realm but inside as well.
We both especially myself have been teased as a child by dark and much darker skin African Americans. My wife and I are both tanned and I have grey eyes. Our daughter somehow came out with skin more fair than whites/straight hair and grey "blue" eyes. Our daughter is now 7 and is going through the same thing as we did but worse because you really can't tell what she is. She is not like other mixed kids that give you an idea you really can't tell. What upset us is that many people both white and black stare at our daughter then us as though something is wrong.
Question: What advice is beset for our daughter because even the schools here in Arizona try to categoz
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Perhaps the people who are members at the sites found via
the links listed below can be of help to you and your wife
(regarding the situation your daughter is going through, etc.).
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http://groups.yahoo.com/group/MGM-Mixed
AND
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FGM-Mixed
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Racism is tough. But remember, many people experience it, your not alone. Racists are ignorant everything. I think the best approach to take is to kick the **** out of anybody who says anything. Seriously loool
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Tell her that skin color doesn't matter in life. It's about how you handle people that are ignorant. Tell her she should only be true to herself, always, and never listen to the negative comments made because her skin color doesn't define her. Her actions do.
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You may want to surround yourself with positive people who don't care about skin color. It's not what on the outside, but whats on the inside, and their intentions. Consider moving where the population is diverse. Love knows no boundaries. Don't be so hard on skin color. Keep the faith, and things will be okay.
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Your wife and I share identical ethnicity. Haha. Which part of Africa is she from? Did not grow up in the US so I just cannot relate to the problems your daughter is having. For heaven's sake, why live in AZ?
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Just make sure that she always has a warm, supportive, welcoming home to come to and no matter what she may suffer from outside the home, she'll never be harmed because of the home she'll come to. I think you should see it more as a trial of life instead of a racist thing, people are people and they're gonna mess with you because they have their own problems. I really don't think it's that big of a deal, you just stay strong and teach your daughter to never have fear (if you're a Christian it tells us to never fear in the bible).
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My son is mixed and you really can't tell, but I have found out that if you act like being interracial is not a big deal (because it's not) and that it makes them special and beautiful then raise them to see everyone for who that are and not the color of their skin then things people say will not hurt them and they will know that the person saying those things are just ignorant. If she sees those things bother you then she will be self conscious and it will bother her too.
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I sometimes look at mixed kids in somewhat of a stare because they look so cool.. Black skin and blue or gray eyes. I think it's neat! It's not a bad stare. It's just interest.
I have also noticed that the most racist people tend to be black. Out here in white world, we really don't care. It is not an issue.
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the best thing is to face people who seeing her weird , and i advice to convince her to be proud of what god create her , we should see person threw their heart and mind , not by their color ,,,,,,,,,
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Wow I feel for you. It's unfortunate that you have to go through that in this day and age. Just be sure to teach your daughter about both of your heritages and try to explain to her that society is ignorant to mixed races and that they are always trying to put us in one category. Just love her and guide her to be the best person that she can be, despite the ignorance of the world...
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tell her she is mixied and a diffrent coler then every one
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Oh my I feel sorry for you.
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That is realyl sad.
I ALWAYS loved looking into the eyes of inter mixed races.
I once met this black guy who had green eyes, and he had the carmel complection,
MMMMM he was sexy,
two years younger than me, but I HAD to make an exception.
This may sound a bit cliche but I think they are probably jelouse of your daughter.
She has a beautiful all over NATURAL tan,
with black hair and grey-blue eyes.
MY GOD THAT IS DROP DEAD GORGOUSE!!!
You and herself just have to keep reminding her that.
and try ( when she get's oldeer)
help her come up withsome witty zinger's to throw back at them.
If she stays a good in her heart, and a beautifull soul, then she will opvercome the discrimination,
you did when you got married. It will be there, but if you can train your eyes to look past it, then the
racists, will be small enough to step on.
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you really aren't alone on this. there are so many websites on the internet with people who have similar stories...just search 'multicultural' or 'interracial' on google, and the sites will come up....i'm sure you can find someone in the same situation and maybe talking to that person will help
but anyway, those other people are just uneducated and narrow-minded...in today's world more and more people are becoming multicultural...and i personally think that's a good thing...if everyone beame multicultural, problems with racism would slowly die away
just be proud that you have taken the bold step in the right direction =)
as for your daughter, explain things to her so that she can br proud of her heritage....or else move to NJ or CA or NY because in those places, people LOVE mixes =D
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Not having any children I would not personally know. But I do think that you should focus on making sure that outside of environments that you can't control such as school and extra-curricular activites that she is surrounded by people who build her confidence in her being mixed. Talk to your friends and neighbors and get their children together if the environment will be positive. You can also find books and/ or videos to share with her to make her strong so that remarks don't bother her. Make her proud of who she is and who's she is... I know it's much easier said than done.
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Diversity includes diverse opinion. Cope with it.
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not to be mean but stop whining, i mean i feel sorry but u know what i got made fun of for being light skiined, for being tall, for being skinny, and for having a white girl name Sarah. we all get picked on some more than others, ive learned to move on, your daughter is going to have to get a back bone, when she gets older it wont be as bad, people dont say things as much about me being skinny. just teach her that she is normal and that nothing is wrong with how she looks, people are used to seeing her like the way she looks.
race wise, well here in america if u have any type of black in you u are considere black, look at halle and barrck obama they just say they are black. look at nicole richie her real father is black and she just says she is black. if she doesnt wanna say she is black then she just mixed, or multiracial. to me it is easier to say black, i mean i have black, italian and native american in me, but i am mostly black and that is what i stick to, because of race mixing and those mixed people being pushd off into the black race we tend to come in more shades than anyone else. to me your daughter is mostly black and french, but as she gets older she may identify with black people more depending on how u raise her.
just because none of the black genes didnt show up on her, doesnt mean they arent there, she could have kids with a white man and they come out more black looking, i have seen that happen, and guess what if that does happen, her kids will go through what she is going because people are gonna stare and be like how the hell did 2 white people have a black baby, what they dont see is that the one so called white looking person is black or multiracial
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I'm bi-racial and some people know it and some people don't, I have green eyes and very fair skin. I think that growing up with nurturing supportive parents made all the difference in the world and that's for any child (no matter the color). It's going to be hard for her to adjust sometimes and kids can be cruel but, I think it made me a stronger person and proud of my heritage. Raise her to not believe the "hype" and that's she's not better or worse from being created from you and your wife's love. Eventually the kids will come around and stares are probably because she's so beautiful, (that's what my parents told me). And I'm a well adjusted, socially responsible member of society (most of the time). Don't try to sheild her from ignorance, she'll learn from and not be ignorant to others.
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